In 2021, an Australian palliative nurse called Bronnie Ware published the results of years listening to dying patients. She noticed the same regrets came up again and again. The top five were, in order: 'I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected.' 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard.' 'I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.' 'I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends.' 'I wish I'd let myself be happier.' She noticed something surprising: none of her patients regretted taking risks or spending money on experiences. The regrets were almost always about the risks NOT taken and the connections NOT kept.
